How do you stop loving someone who has already stop loving you?

The brain and the heart are two very powerful functions of our body as they are spiritually as well.

When it comes to love we listen to our spiritual heart but when it breaks we feel it in our body heart, the pain in the chest, the little jab feeling, we’ve all had it.

When it comes to make decisions on what to do with that pain we use our spiritual brain to decide if it really hurts or not which then uses are actually brain to invoke the pain.

It is a very long process to go through for some petty thing that is so temporary, but we all do it.

So why do we? Because everyone wants a chance to have someone else care for them so deeply so passionately that when it dies that want to feel as though death has really come.

Well I am here to say I am tired of all these fakes deaths and heightened emotions. It is a waste of time now adays to go through that whole process of pleasure just for it to lead to pain. No one gives a shit about anyone anymore it’s all about the “high” of physical wanting, or the “high” of drunken babble, or “high” of drugs in general. No one gets “high” off love anymore. You ask why? because no one knows what the fuck it is. It’s not sex, it’s not holding hands, telling someone they are your girlfriend/boyfriend/etc, its about faith, trust, understanding, and loyalty. Which none of these assholes or bitches now adays have.

Just because you sleep with someone doesn’t make them love you.

Just because someone is in a relationship with you doesn’t mean they love you either anymore, because they lie, cheat, steal, and use you.

This might be a downer to some or to all but I am not writing this for you to like it I am writing this to express how I feel. I frankly don’t want your opinion so you can keep it to yourself as well.

Here’s the definitions to those four little words I just said to describe what actual love is suppose to be:

Thanks dictionary.com!

faith - confidence or trust in a person or thing: faith in another’s ability.

trust - reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.  confident expectation of something; hope.

understanding - mental process of a person who comprehends; comprehension; personal interpretation: My understanding of the word does not agree with yours. intellectual faculties; intelligence; mind: a quick understanding.

   superior power of discernment; enlightened intelligence
loyalty - the state or quality of being loyal;  faithfulness to commitments or obligations. faithful adherence to a sovereign, government, leader, cause, etc.  an example or instance of faithfulness, adherence
In order to love someone you have to understand them, where they come from, how they are, who they, and accept them. To understand them you have to have faith in them which means you need to trust them, in order to trust them you have to be able to trust yourself once you do that you develope a loyalty to them when in turns is love.
But what they don’t tell you about this process is that it doesn’t always work. Trust can be broken, faith can turn to doubt, understanding can turn in to intolerant, loyalty can turn in to insecurity, and what happens then? Love turns to Hate.I will also tell you this the only way you can hate someone is if you have ever loved someone, you can’t provoke such passionate strong emotions for someone unless at one point you cared about them. So that girl that used to bully you in elementary school was not hate hunny, you disliked her.  Love is very sensitive its sits on the border by hate all the time. Things can change.
For me I have seen it happen way too many times to count or even want to remember. Love hurts, hate kills.  Right now Im in percatory trying to decide what way I should go on this. Should I love them? Or should I hate them? I already resent them so you would think hate would be the only option left.But I know how painful it is to hate someone, and loving them is doing me no good either. I have prayed, asked God a million time for some answers on what I should do and I think he just likes to see me squirm like this is payback for my wrong doings. He never answers me, he’s leaving this decision up to me but I don’t want it. Everytime I even think about deciding on what I should do I get a knot in the bottom of my stomach and a pain in my chest. Because either way I decide it’s not going to fix whats already happened or whats going on. If I keep loving them, they’ll keep using me and hurting me, lying to me, slowly killing me. But if I hate them, I won’t get used, but I’ll still hurt, and pretty much feel miserable all the time. Either way this works my hearts still broken, and they still won’t love me or treat me right.It isn’t fair. It’s a lose/lose situation.I try to move on get away from it, but it is always creeping up on me, it’s like a disease I can’t seem to cure. It always ends the same way no matter what I do. My only option I feel as though I have left is to escape and run away from it, but I feel even if Im 172387289372983 miles away, my heart still will feel as though they are standing right next to me. I really want love and to be happy and have someone who wants the same with me. But it doesn’t seem like Im ever going to get to that point ever because I can’t even love/hate someone properly. I just wish God would give me a damn answer so I don’t have to feel this way anymore, I’ve gotten to the point where I can’t even be happy for others who have found this “love” that I seek, I can’t even enjoy someone elses love, because I remember that no one “loves” me like that and that kills it for me. I feel like I can’t even have one friend that I can even talk to about this hurt I feel because everyone is too busy or has someone in their life. I’m alone in this. and I can’t stand it. In order for me to not realize or think about it I would party hard, drink excessively, chain smoke, or whatever else I could find to numb that pain or even extinguish completely. I haven’t soberly faced my “problem” or him in about a year now. I keep thinking over and over again that it’s just a phase he’s going through, or he really loves me he just having a rough time, or that he just wants to keep me on the backburner until he’s ready. But let’s be honest with ourselves for a second. If someone really loves you would they push you away constantly? Would they call you nasty names and bully you? Would they repeatedly use you for what you have and what you can do for them? Would they constantly tell you they don’t want you or love you but still come around? No. they wouldn’t. Someone really loved you wouldn’t do those things to you. Now this has returned to my present question :How do you stop loving someone who has already stop loving you? I don’t know. I really honestly don’t have answer for this question. for once in my life I can’t analyze this situation from every end and put it back together.Both options are bleak. So I sit in limbo because I honestly have no fucking clue why this is so painful either way. Im defenseless I am fighting a losing battle. I feel helpless, weak and completely moronic. I give up.
  Time to google.

So I just sat here and watched a movie about a couple who gave each other one night to go hook up with someone else to see how it felt. Before they decided this endeavor they were always laughing, hugging, kissing , and super enthralled with each other. They would say they love and trusted each other no matter what. Well then it comes down to actually doing it. When they get home the next day, they refuse to talk about, and it creates a huge rift in their relationship. They barely talk, or interact, they lost their spark. When they finally agree to talk about it, they don’t trust what the other person has said and it doesn’t get any better.

This movie hit very close to home on the trust issue and shows a major basis for a relationship is trust, and when that disappears so does the relationship. I have made some major mistakes in my dating life and this just showed a world of hurt on both ends, they both did each other wrong, and didn’t know how to forgive, trust or move on, it tore them apart. Sadly, I know how that feels all too well. While I sat here after watching that movie I couldn’t help but feel sorry for them, and myself as well, that when you have something good and it gets destroyed it leaves both parties in a world of hurt. Everyone deserves love and to be trusted. Everyone deserves forgiveness, but people all have their limits, what is your limit? Are you willing to stay with someone after they tell a white lie to you? Forget your birthday? Or a an Anniversary? Abuse drugs and alcohol, hit you or beat you? Let’s dig a little deeper here, if they steal from you, flirt with someone else, talk to someone else, or here we go sleep with someone else? Have a kid with someone else? MARRY someone else? Can you still love them? Can you still say you trust them with your every being? Can you forgive a betrayal such as major? A sin of the flesh, so intimate that they shared that bond with you before how could they open themselves up to a stranger like that. When they say it didn’t mean anything do you believe them? It’s hard nowadays to have a relationship where things like that don’t happen because everyone is so lost in missing out on “life” that they forget the real picture. LOVE. Life is nothing without it, and people go on searching for it their whole lives, looking for someone to be the one they can always count on, ALWAYS TRUST, someone to understand and accept them. People take it for granted and that is why these “unforgivable” things tend to happen because instead of fixing what is right in front of them they seek out other ways to deal with what they can’t control or what issues they have with that person, by adding other things to the mix, like drugs, alcohol, sex, and whatever else self destructive numbing device they can find.Because of accepting people for who they are and accepting ourselves for who we are we rather pretend that we don’t care or look for others reasons why we can’t accept the other person. We create excuses, lies, and complete bullshit reasons why we can’t do something, just to avoid feeling at all, but it doesn’t work. The more you avoid something the faster it finds you. I have learned that the hard way. So the next time you have a problem with the one you say you “love” make sure to resolve it, and if you find that “love” isn’t what you feel let them know, and walk away and stay away. No one likes breaking up, but what’s worse no one likes having their broken heart repeatedly thrown in their face either.

God is the only one who will love you no matter what and forgive you for everything, so don’t get caught up in the turmoil of human emotions just be thankful that you have at least one person in this universe who can love you right.(Unless you have a Dog ;)~ )

God Bless.

Right now I have so many mixed emotions I cant tell up from down. I am happy, yet sad, angry, yet peaceful, cursed, but blessed. Do you see my dilemma? This doesn’t make any sense. Right now I am focused on one thing and one thing only and that is finding who I am and getting my life back on track. But it seems that everytime I tried to make that my main focus other things, people, problems and stuff would get in the way of my ultimate goal.

Right now I realized I have once again been focused or placed in the wrong direction and now I am doing this on my own again. But it seems whenever someone helps or tries to guide me in the direction they want me to go in they get pissed when I don’t take it. Honestly, when I tried to do the same for them they walked the opposite way as well, but instead of being mad at them I accepting that they are going to be themselves.

So why can’t I? Why does someone always have to tell me what to do or what to think or to feel? I am sick of it, I WANT TO BE MY OWN PERSON again not what someone wants me to be!

I am tired of people bashing me, judging me, putting me down, telling me I’m stupid, or worthless, honestly I just want to say shut THE FUCK UP! Half the people who say this stuff to me and act like they are better are sometimes bad off or worse off then me, and you don’t see me telling them what to do. So don’t tell me what to do you fucking hypocrite.

I know people come and go all throughout life, but I am sick of it. I am ready for someone to actually stick around this time and not abandon me when shit gets tough or I have a meltdown. I would do the same for them. But people only feel when it’s convenient for them, that is why people like me end up getting dogs. At least he can’t ditch me when someone better comes along, or get mad at me and tell me I’m an idiot, or judge me for my mistakes. He loves me no matter what, and even when he shits on the floor and tears up my stuff I forgive him, because that’s what you do when you love someone. You love them for the good the bad and the in between. I guess alot of people don’t really get that concept, and they call me the stupid one.